When most people think of love languages, we think of how we care for others and how others care for us.
It’s often overlooked that love languages can also be very insightful when considering how to care for yourself.
When exploring ways to practice self-care and self-compassion, it’s common for a therapist to tell someone to talk to or treat themselves the way they would a friend.
However, your friends may not value or appreciate the same things you do.
What works for others will not always work for you. Instead, consider your own love language(s).
What do you do to express your love for others? What do others do to make you feel cared for? Many of these things can be adapted by you for yourself.
If you are someone who cares for others through acts of service, activities like tidying up and meal prepping for “future you” may be an act of self-care.
If you share affection through quality time, go on some solo-dates or take time for your hobbies as an act of self-care.
The five love languages all connect to existing self-care activities that can be used to intentionally show yourself more affection.
Your love language can also be a guide for what isn't as effective or beneficial for you.
By trying out words of affirmation, you may realize self-compliments aren’t as effective as other acts of self-care.
Knowing yourself and what you value is a journey.
By looking at the ways you enjoy showing and accepting love, you can find the best ways to care for yourself.