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  • Writer's pictureAaron Elam

Not Everyone Wants a Birthday Party- And That's Okay...

Birthdays are often synonymous with joy, celebration, and reflection.

However, for many individuals, the approach of one's birthday can stir up complex emotions, especially when coupled with mental health challenges

It’s crucial to recognize that not everyone feels elated or excited as their birthday approaches.

For some, it only triggers feelings of loneliness, anxiety, or even sadness.

This could be due to so many different factors, such as past experiences, societal expectations, and personal struggles with mental health.

If you find yourself among this group, here are some self-care strategies you might consider employing as your birthday approaches:

Setting Boundaries: It’s okay to decline invitations or opt for a low-key celebration if you’re not feeling up to it. Prioritize your well-being and do what feels right for you.

Reflecting on Growth: Use your birthday as an opportunity for self-reflection. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small, and acknowledge the progress you’ve made on your mental health journey.

Practicing Mindfulness: Engage in mindfulness activities such as meditation, deep breathing, or spending time in nature. These practices can help ground you and alleviate stress or anxious thoughts.

Seeking Support: Reach out to trusted friends, family members, or mental health professionals if you’re struggling. Don’t hesitate to ask for support or guidance when needed.

Instead of viewing birthdays as a reminder of age or unmet expectations, shift the focus towards gratitude and self-compassion.

Each birthday is an opportunity to celebrate your existence, resilience, and capacity for growth- even if we may not want a party or gathering to do so.

Embrace the notion that your worth is not defined by external achievements or societal standards, but by the love and acceptance you have for yourself.

Navigating birthdays while managing mental health challenges can be a nuanced journey, but it’s also an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.

Remember, your birthday is a reminder of your worthiness, and you deserve to honor it in a way that feels authentic and meaningful to you.

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